A formula for true love

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Have you ever wondered…..

  • How many people believe in love at first sight?
  • How many people believe it can last?
  • How do you find the right partner?
  • Why are there so few people truly happy?

All interesting yet difficult questions to answer. In the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”, author John Gray provides a wonderful explanation about why relationships work and/or don’t work…yet he is missing something – the formula about how to actually find the relationship you want in the future.

I recently watched a Tedx talk where Tony Verheij, discussed this very topic. In order to find the relationship you want, it is important to know WHO the right partner for you would be.

There are 3 separate factors that can help you and they are related to how love works: Biological, Chemical and Psychological (Mental).

Biological

Since the beginning of time, humans are wired to fit together. Our instincts tell us that procreation is exactly what we should be doing.

Chemical

Additionally, we can find ourselves blinded by love at first sight. The chemistry is in our heads – the brain hormone, oxytocin, is triggered and we become blinded by this and so begins the mutual attraction (hence the expression, “Love is blind”). However, this chemical reaction may propel us to wear a mask in that we begin to do things that we might otherwise not do – talk differently, walk differently. This can be problematic because after years of being together, the person you have fallen in love with, or has fallen in love with you, may not be the person you thought they were.

Psychological

Which brings me to the third factor – the Psychological aspect (or mental) aspect of falling in love. Imagine your partner in 30 days, 30 months, and most importantly 30 years from now – Is this the same person you still want to wake up with every day? When you touch them, do you touch their heart and do they touch yours? If so, then you very well may have found the secret ingredient to a long lasting relationship. That is to say, biology will dissipate, chemistry may fade as well, but psychologically if you can stay connected – you have, in fact, found Mr. or Mrs. Right. Good luck! For more information feel free to visit our Professional Counselling Services page.

If you need more ideas or suggestions, book an appointment with Corrie today, or call 514.684.9073….we’re here to help!

Watch out for Corrie’s book: Someone Died, Now What? Available on Amazon.com April 2015

 

Meet Corrie…Cappino’s expert professional counsellor

CORRIE SIROTA, M.S.W., P.S.W. holds a graduate degree in Social Work as well as a graduate certificate in Loss and Bereavement from McGill University, where she has been teaching for the past 20 years.

Corrie has worked in the Montreal community for over two decades developing and facilitating psychosocial prevention and intervention programs for individuals, groups, families and children.

She is a well known and seasoned guest speaker, having presented at numerous workshops and conferences across Canada and the United States. She has been interviewed by many local radio and TV programs on a variety of topics including child development, bullying, Internet awareness, effective communications and loss & bereavement. Do you have something you need to talk about and don’t know where to turn? Book an appointment with Corrie.   

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